Last week we talked about the first sign you may have a catfish:
1. You’ve never met in person, or even on video chat.
This week, we’ll cover the next sign of a potential catfish:
2. The 3 Ts: Too good to be true, Tragedy, Too serious too soon
The 3 Ts are combined because they all pertain to the conversations you have when you’re getting to know someone in an online relationship.
It’s natural to want to focus on your good qualities and the good things going on in your life, especially when you’re first getting to know someone, but watch out for people who are Too good to be true. Do they say all the right things, all the time? Agree with everything you say? Like ALL the same things you do? Sounds nice on the surface, but it’s probably a catfish. If by some miracle it is not, you’ll eventually get bored with someone who agrees with everything you say and do. #Trust.
If you make plans to meet your match, and they cancel because there has been some sort of Tragedy – a death in the family, a serious illness, a car wreck – chances are, you’re dealing with a catfish. Of course, tragedy does occur in real life, and it’s been the cause of many a missed date, but if something “comes up” every time you try to meet – that’s more tragedy than you need. #WalkAway
Maybe it’s possible to fall in love with someone without ever meeting them – it has probably happened before, but it is definitely rare. If the person you’re talking to online is getting Too serious too soon, it’s probably a case of the catfish. Be wary of the “L” word and anyone who uses it fast and freely. And especially be wary of someone pushing for something serious, and asking for something from you (money) – do NOT send money or gifts to someone you’ve never met or even had a video conversation with. If you do, you’ll end up with an empty heart and an empty wallet.
Having your emotions toyed with is anything but fun. You can avoid all of the above scenarios by going on real dates and getting to know people face to face – it’s a lot harder to lie and pretend to be someone you’re not when you can’t hide behind a computer or a phone.
Encounter makes it easy to set up real dates with real people.