Dating fears. Everyone has them.
Fear of meeting someone new. Fear of a terrible date. Fear of a boring date. Fear of rejection. Fear of creepers. Fear of being hurt, whether physically or emotionally. The list could go on and on.
Your fears are going to be there whether you’ve talked to someone online for months before you meet them for the first time, or whether you meet them for the first time without ever talking to them (as is the case with Encounter.)
The reality is, you can’t truly get to know someone online, and that’s why we at Encounter believe in the power of real dating. Can you lie to someone to their face and act like you’re someone you’re not in person? Sure, but it’s a lot more difficult to do in person than it is in an online profile. It’s harder to hide your true self when you’re looking someone in the eye, and not just messaging them on your phone.
Sadly, there are, and always will be, bad people in the world. So, the fear that comes with meeting a stranger is completely understandable. However, you don’t want to live your life in fear – you might miss out on something amazing! We want you to take a chance, but we also want you to be safe, so here are some tips for your Encounter dates:
1. Choose a time and location you are comfortable with.
Encounter lets the ladies create the first date, which means they get to choose the day, time and location. If you’re uncomfortable meeting at night, choose a daytime activity in a well-populated location. For example, instead of a late dinner in a romantic, secluded restaurant, choose to have coffee at a popular coffee shop.
2. Save your date details, and share them with a friend.
Encounter gives you the option to share your Encounter date details to your Apple calendar or Google calendar. Share the details with a friend or two, so someone knows where you will be and when. If you’re extra nervous, you could even have a friend come along and sit near by.
3. Use your own transportation.
On your first Encounter, you’ll handle your own transportation, because you and your date will be meeting, and talking, for the first time. This is good, because if things don’t go well, you don’t have to rely on your date to get home, and they won’t need to know where you live.
4. Don’t leave your food or drink unattended.
It seems like this should be common knowledge by now, but it never hurts to repeat it: never leave your food or drink unattended. It’s too easy to slip something into your drink, or even your meal, that will leave you disoriented.
5. Don’t give out your personal information.
Encounter makes in-app messaging available after the first date. So, if it goes well, but you’re still apprehensive, (which is understandable) you don’t need to give out your phone number or your email address. And if it doesn’t go well? Don’t enable messaging, and your date will have no way of contacting you again.
Don’t be afraid to take a chance, just be prepared.