The Backstreet Boys said it best back in 1997. Games need to go when it comes to matter of the heart.
At Encounter, we don’t like to think of love as a game. We see the obvious similarities – both are fun and challenging. Both make us feel like winners and losers. Both are enjoyable in the nude.
But when it comes to dating, playing games should be a thing of the past. It can be hard enough to find love, why should we make it even harder on ourselves with the added complication of strategic texting or “playing hard to get”?
Do you ever pretend to like or enjoy something just because your date does?
Have you ever gone on a second date, not out of interest, but out of a feeling of obligation or pity?
Have you ever purposely put off texting someone, even when you’re really interested in him or her?
Do you always wait for the other person to text or call first, never taking the initiative?
Why is it so difficult to be honest with one another, and ourselves? Why do we put ourselves in uncomfortable situations with people we aren’t interested in – because we don’t want to “hurt their feelings”?
The longer things go on, the more it’s going to hurt the interested party. Be honest if you’re not feeling it.
Encounter makes this easy with our “How was the date?” feature. If you’re not interested, it’s easy to stop the communication – so you can both move on to finding your best match.
If you find yourself on the other side of things, trying to impress someone you’re really interested in, sometimes it’s tempting to stretch the truth.
You don’t want your date to fall for the person you wish you were, or the person you “can” be. You don’t have to like all the same bands or enjoy all the same activities.
Be yourself. If your date isn’t into that – on to the next one!