Heartbreak: How to Learn From It and Move On

Heartbreak is inevitable. It’s part of life, and while it’s not exclusive to romantic relationships, that’s how we usually experience it.

Whether your partner lied, cheated, moved away, or maybe you both just realized it wasn’t meant to be, there’s one thing that’s always consistent – it hurts.

But you don’t have to let that pain go to waste. You can look back on each heartbreak and learn something – something that could help you in your next relationship.

Finding the Lesson

Sometimes, the heartbreak is out of your control. Maybe you did everything right, but he/she is just a lousy person who lied/cheated/whatever the case may be. Even in these instances, there is a lesson to be learned.

Reflect on the relationship – were there red flags? Little things you noticed but decided to let go? A gut feeling you decided to ignore?

Or maybe neither of you did anything wrong, specifically. Did you stay together because it was comfortable? Were you scared you wouldn’t be able to find someone else?

The One

One of the biggest lessons to learn in love and heartbreak – just because you love someone, doesn’t mean they’re the one for you.

Realizing the person you love isn’t “the one” can be a serious blow. It could be that you’re in love, but you want completely different things.

Compromise is a huge part of being in a relationship, but there are certain things you shouldn’t have to compromise. You have to figure out what those things are, whether it’s having kids, living near your family, or the type of communication you want in a relationship.

Trusting Again

Trust is difficult when you’ve been hurt. You want to be open to new people and relationships, but you also want to protect yourself from getting hurt again.

It’s okay to be cautious, but if you treat every new person like he/she is the one who hurt you, you could miss out on something really special.

Unfortunately, there is no magic solution to trusting again. You just have to do it.

Moving On

You might need a month to get over a heartbreak, or you might need a year. The only person who will know when you’re ready to move on is you. Give yourself some time to heal, but don’t spend too much time wallowing.

Life is too short to focus on the past and what could have been. Take some time to be sad, some time to reflect, and then get back out there and find love.


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