It’s one of the most popular reality television shows in the history of television. This show has had 20 seasons, over 200 episodes – and that’s not including several spin-offs. Women flock to their televisions on Monday nights, throwing viewing parties and ranting every emotional moment on Twitter and Facebook. Of course, we are talking about The Bachelor.
The series revolves around a single bachelor (deemed eligible) who starts with a pool of romantic interests (typically 25) from whom he is expected to select a wife. During the course of the season, the bachelor eliminates candidates, proposing marriage to his final selection.
The participants travel to romantic and exotic locations for their adventures, and the conflicts in the series, both internal and external, stem from the elimination-style format of the show.
The finale of the 20th season of The Bachelor aired last week on ABC. Elite Daily covered a great piece on the finale of the season and how it ties to the troubles of online dating:
On the finale of “The Bachelor,” we saw JoJo struggle as she came to realize Ben was in love with another woman. “I love you. I’m in love with you,” we hear him say behind a closed door.
“But you love her too. Am I right?” JoJo asks. There’s a heartbreakingly long pause, and finally, a painful, awkward “yes.” In the understandable breakdown that followed, every woman in America sighed as JoJo uttered the most relatable words in the world to anyone who has ever dated: “I’m so tired of competing.”
Let’s put aside (for just a moment) the fact that JoJo willingly entered a reality dating competition. If we look, instead, at the real, human emotion that comes with the realization that we’re losing someone we care about to another person, we arrive at a feeling everyone has battled with to some degree in his or her life.
Click on the clip from the season finale to watch part of the ending result. The post from Elite Daily continues to compare the clip to the same “connection” issues that happen with online dating apps today:
It’s the right swipe on Tinder that doesn’t lead to a match, which leaves you wondering what left your profile so inadequate as to not merit a conversation. It’s the radio silence after a first date, which tells you you weren’t even adequate enough to deserve a pleasantry or two. It’s the casual burnout of a short fling that says, “You’re great, but you’re not the one.” It’s the time you watch him or her smile like an idiot at a text on his or her phone, but when you ask who it is, he or she says, “Just someone from work.”
It’s the constant barrage of perfect men and women, the unending lure of another swipe or two on a dating app, the shortening of attention spans and the rise of hyper-selective, oversaturated dating. Slowly, it’s killing us.
One of the problems with online dating is something we at Encounter like to call:
The Baskin Robbins 31 Flavors conundrum.
There are too many choices to choose, too many options to select, too many questionnaires to fill out. There’s a point where the process of online dating turns into a numbing experience. For what? Another potential digital connection that could lead nowhere beyond a “hey” message followed by no response, or an un-matching from the match who said “hey” to you first?
Encounter gets to the meat.
You want to send more messages from an online dating platform? That’s not how we roll. On Encounter, you’ll have to go on a date first. Then you can decide if your date has permission to move forward with direct messaging. Encounter cares about keeping it real – exactly why our slogan is “real people, real dates, real love.”