We get it. Cell phones are only getting faster, smarter, and smaller. But what is more important, your smartphone relationship, or your personal relationships?Time and Buzzfeedhave both discussed the research behind cell phones ruining personal relationships and love lives.
Here is an except from Time magazine:
Nothing kills romance faster than pulling out a smartphone, and now, research confirms it. Being attached to your phone seems to sabotage your attachment with your loved one. Cell phones aren’t going anywhere. They will only continue to get faster, smarter, and smaller. Time Magazine published a great piece about the research showcasing the damage it does to your personal relationships.
Plenty of research has been done on how cell phones affect relationships. Some suggests that they’re a positive influence – that being in easy, intimate touch with a partner through calling and texting makes people happier and more secure in their relationships. Other research reveals the dark side of cell phones. Real-life interactions are dulled when a person feels the urge to check their phone, and the distraction a phone affords one partner doesn’t make the other person feel good.
Smartphones are far more invasive and demanding of our time, connecting us to the world in vastly more ways than the flip phones of yore.
A team of researchers thought that smartphones might be making relationships worse, so they wrangled 170 college kids who were in committed relationships to see what role their phones were playing.
In the study, published in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture, the college lovebirds were asked to report on their own smartphone use: how dependent they felt on their device, and how much it would bother them to go without it for a day.
They then answered similar questions about their own partner’s smartphone dependency.
It didn’t matter how much a person used their device, but how much a person needed their device. People who were more dependent on their smartphones reported being less certain about their partnerships. People who felt that their partners were overly dependent on their devices said they were less satisfied in their relationship.
Checkout another excerpt from Time magazine:
In other words, people get jealous of their partner’s smartphone. I’m more likely to think my relationship is doomed the more I believe my partner needs that thing, explains Matthew Lapierre, assistant professor in the department of communication at the University of Arizona, who authored the study with his former undergraduate student Meleah Lewis. It’s not use; it;s the psychological relationship to that device.
The researchers are now doing a follow up experiment to try to understand the causal mechanisms behind their findings and to see whether or not smartphone dependency affects other areas of life, like academic performance, and whether factors like self-esteem predict a person’s smartphone obsession.
Encounter encourages people to take a chance with looking forward to going on a date with an actual human being.
We hope Encounter makes you take a break and look up, because people swipe away the love of their life every day.
Unplugging and disconnecting from technology to reconnect with family, friends, and loved ones will lead to healthier, happier, and longer lasting relationships.